I am sorry for your loss. If they total it, you can tell them you want to buy it from them. The parts are cheap if bought online. If there is no frame or engine damage fix the cosmetics, get a salvage title and a new paint job and still be $$ ahead.
Some people are not very tactful, but the idea that it is just a machine should help you get over it. Machines, like all material possessions can be fixed or replaced. Kind of a zen thing. I hope it all works out for you.