well, another can of worms..
after 25 yrs of marriage, 5 homeborn children
[2 delivered by me, by necessity] and to put it
in a nutshell, as to sex and so on, my dad
told me as a boy 'son, women like to be kissed,
all, over, son [pause, meaningful look] do you
understand?' as a 12 yr old with no interest in
girls, i thought dad must mean on the neck etc,
and couldnt mean girls feet or yucky bits,
so replied 'yes dad'.. 'good, good, son'..
[and we went back to repairing his bike]
later, the penny dropped, and i discovered that
women do in fact like to be kissed, all, over..
before he passed away much too young himself,
dad passed on various advice such as 'its your
responsibility that she doesnt get pregnant'
and 'its your responsibility that she enjoys it
[sex] as much as you do'..
armed with these pre-pubescent gems of
advice i shouldered my responsibilities,
learned about the urethral sponge, where it is,
what it does, what special spot it connects with,
what a wonderful special thing is a womans
external genitalia, and the importance of
fore-foreplay such as [eg only] brushing her hair,
massaging her eyes/forehead/feet, and so on,
[esp when shes pregnant]
giving flowers with 'you are so beautiful!'
[esp when shes pregnant]
going for rides to quiet places together,
helping with chores, cooking, washing,
changing nappies [delivering babies]
and so on..
to each their own, of course, but there is
no doubt that you do reap, as you sow..
for your own research, if interested or
applicable, practice some fore-foreplay,
and - especially - kissing her, all, over..
the grey clouds some may be used to
could as if by magic, start to clear away...